I'm Lanie, and this is my record of my quiet but mostly happy life with my husband, Jason, and two cats, Ponzu and Sake, in beautiful Vancouver, British Columbia.Ask me anything
When I was 18 years old, I enrolled in a summer abroad program in Cape Town, South Africa. I fell in love with the country so much that when I was 19 years old, I went back and spent an additional 11 months in Cape Town, South Africa. In total, I spent 13 months of my undergrad in South Africa.
Madiba is one of the most influential people in my life. I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason, and I firmly believe one of the reasons I am able to get through my health issues with such a calm heart is because South Africa touched so deeply into my soul. I think the universe brought me to South Africa to give me lessons and experience to make me a stronger person-to help me deal with the hand I’d be given a little later in life.
I always tell people who say, “How do you do it?” “Well, I lived in South Africa for 13 months, and I saw things there that I will never forget. It changed me." If you know me, you know there are two things that get me going: South Africa and healthcare reform.
My heart is broken for South Africa’s loss, but I am equally comforted knowing that Madiba is finally at a state of peaceful rest. Madiba has been sick for a long time, and at 95 years old, he deserves this. Nelson Mandela, your beautiful soul touched me-such a tiny, small, unknowing 18 year old-in ways I couldn’t imagine possible. Your lessons, fight, and heart are carried in my heart each and every day.
Thank you for everything you gave to South Africa, the world, and me. I don’t know what else to say except that I know I am a changed person because of your love, fight, and teachings, and I can’t say that about as many people as I wish I could.
I am so sad, but consider myself so lucky to have been so deeply enriched by your struggle.
jaredpadasexme asked: do u have any body confidence tips? some days i feel awful and try to make myself smaller, but i shouldnt have to. im tired of being ashamed of my weight in public
Limit the amount of media you consume and the negative people you may be surrounded by. Surround yourself with people who don’t talk negatively about their own body or the bodies of other people. If you aren’t able to depending on who you have to be around, just try to limit your time with people who are hard to be around.
Consume body positive media, try to challenge the negative thoughts you have about your own body and don’t beat yourself up if you are having a bad day. We all have them, it’s a long process to love yourself but knowing that you have the right to love your body can make it so much easier.
It’s hard to work through all of the bullshit we’ve been taught to feel about our bodies, just take it one day at a time and know that the only person who gets to decide how awesome you are is you.
**BTW I found when I was 18 being able to read books that talked about body image and beauty ideals really allowed me to think about my own experiences with body hatred. It gave me a way to think that was vastly different from all of the negative body hatred I had consumed before then.
When you remember whose life it is, it gets easier. When you remember that you’re going to love who and what you do, it gets easier. When you remember that opinions can’t actually hurt or control your life, it gets easier. If the worst thing someone says is “I don’t agree with your life/choices” then you realize that how you live your life is up to you.
The best thing I ever realized for myself was I didn’t have to talk to or associate with people who made me feel bad about myself. When I realized I had the right to walk away. Walk away.
You are in control of how you feel about yourself. Eleanor Roosevelt said that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
DO NOT CONSENT.
I often forget that I’m an ordained minister via the Universal Life Church, or whatever it’s called.
I haven’t paid for any of the official stuff, but I’m on the registry.
I remember signing up mainly for the irony of an atheist being an ordained minister. It’s one of those little known facts that people don’t know because I forget to tell them.